Saturday, January 29, 2011

“Adieu: The Final Curtain”

“Mr. Gorbachev, Tear down these blogs!"

Well…we’re not actually going to tear them down. But we will not be posting any more entries – either here or at “The Sweetness of Sugar”. That’s right – the final curtain has fallen upon our blogs.

There are two reasons for this – one a contributor to the other.

First, we feel we have said everything that we could say about our relationship in and with “this thing we do”. To say any thing more would be to basically say what has already been said and for y’all to hear what has already been heard.

And second, feeling this way means it takes a lot more energy - and time - to dress up and repackage the redundancies. We confess, we just don’t have the motivation for that. And we don’t want this to become an unenjoyable chore. But we can see that it's headed that way.

We are thankful for all of the friends we have made through this experience. You have taught us an awful lot. We are especially grateful for those trailblazers who, by opening up their own lives through their blogs, have made priceless contributions to the very salvation and resurrection (quite literally) of our relationship. We could only hope that we have that kind of contribution to some couple who came after us.

Eventually, our blogs will fade to the bottom of your blog rolls. We’ll become the seemingly vacant and abandoned house on the south end of Domestic Discipline Avenue. But don’t be fooled, this old couple still lives here. Like Tom Bodett, we're still leaving the light on for you: we'll still be answering the door and responding to any comments that are made to any of our posts.

We'll still be lurking, and listening, and learning and even commenting on other blogs. And like good neighbors, we will still be offering up a cup of Sugar (and a hand full of BabyMan) to anyone we notice moving onto the block. We just won’t be writing posts.

It’s the end of our blogs but not the end of "this thing we do" for us. Frankly, it would easier to get out of the mob than it would be to get out of the lifestyle. 

So feel free to use our email addresses ( and whether it is to just say, “Hello” or to ask us about something in regard to your own journey in "this thing we do". We are still here to help if you feel like we can. 

We wanna thank each and every one of you: "Thank you", "Thank you",  "Thank you", Thank you", Thank you", "Thank you",  "Thank you", "Thank you", "Thank you", "Thank you", Thank you", "Thank you", and "Thank you" - is that everybody? If we've missed anyone, well, "Thank you too!"

"Thank you" to all of you. This has truly, truly been a fulfilling and life-changing experience for the both of us individually and together as one.

With that we - with love and great affection - bid you…


BabyMan and SugarAnne.


  1. Babyman,

    I'm sad to hear this. You guys seem to be sort of the center of the TTWD blogsphere. Your presence will be greatly missed.

    I wish you and SugarAnne all the best. Please stay in touch.


  2. Thank-you for sharing as much as you did. It has been good to come and visit with you, here on your blog. I wish you well on your further journies on the road of this thing we do.
    Sincerely Sereena

  3. We'll all miss you both. I loved getting two perspectives of the same event. I wish you both well.

  4. We'll miss you.

    But every blog must end at some point

    Blessings to you both


  5. B'Man~ I already miss you! I understand though.. there is a season for everything. And I am very happy to hear you'll still be hanging around!

    You and Sugaranne have been a huge influence on both Craig and I, so thank you! I've have thoroughly enjoyed all your posts, and have learned something from each one!

    Best wishes to you,

  6. Awww, this makes me sad. As KellyRed said, I enjoyed reading the two different perspectives of the same event. Your blogs have been informative, thought provoking, and a source of amusement for me these past several months. You both will be greatly missed.


  7. Noooooooooooo!!!!!!!!!!!! Noooooooooooo!!!!!! Noooooooooooo!!!!! I am so upset!!!!!! :-(

  8. BabyMan,

    I've always enjoyed reading your unique perspectives. I will miss both of you.

    A couple of years ago, I too came to a place where I felt I had little new material to offer. I was ready to walk away. My readers begged me to continue on whatever basis I could. After a lot of thought, I decided that as long as no one expected me to be post every day or say anything profound, I could blog on a while longer. I share this experience not to encourage you to make the same decision, but to illustrate the range of choices available.

    Come what may, you and SugarAnne will always be welcome at my blog. Fare thee well!


  9. B'Man,

    You were one of the first to comment on my blog and made me feel so welcome in the world of blogging, and for that I thank you.

    I am sad to see you go, and will miss you - but I do wish you both everything of the best...and yes, I will be looking forward to a bit of lurking and a comment here and there..

    Lots of hugs


  10. Will miss you. Lots. :(


  11. aw...makes me sad to read this. But thank You for letting us know all is well. Good luck..You two are special!

  12. Can I just say this stinks? That said, you articulated it beautifully and made me understand fully. I'll miss both of your blogs immensely. Your stories have made me both laugh and cry..but always learn something important.

  13. To both of you as your journey continues on a different path, be well.

  14. Bummers. I just started reading your blog and was thoroughly enjoying the two of you. I am very sad about this but wish you the best.

  15. Awww sucks you can't just fade away! I hate to see you leave the blogsphere. Hopefully you will still check in on the rest of us and post on our blogs.

  16. I'm sad to see this as well, but let's see it not as an end, rather a beginning. I wish you the best wherever the path of life takes you from here.

  17. You're going to truly be missed.


  18. Oh B'Man, I'm gonna miss those posts. You have had me laughing so hard my stomach has hurt, always able to put a smile on my face. You have been some great medicne. You are a man of great character...something to be proud of. You and Sugar will be missed! Please drop by anytime, would love to hear from you.
    Big Hugs

  19. I've been lurking behind the curtain. Interesting, honest and brilliantly funny posts. We are sorry to see the curtain close. You bleed out integrity.
    It's my hope to lead my wife with as much.

  20. No... my "big bro" can NOT stop blogging, nor can his lovely wife! It's just not allowed! Really... did you believe that? No? Okay... well in that case, let me say that you and SA will be missed greatly. Your blogs are two of my favorites - you know, the ones that I eagerly jump to whenever I hear there's a new post.

    That said, I understand how it is when blogging becomes a chore. In the beginning, it helps us grow and build community, but after awhile, like you said, it feels like everything's been said and it takes more work to find something new to write about. I've faced that with my blog as well. I don't think I'll ever close it down... most likely I'll simply post less often. As I wrote in my very first post, I never promised to write every day, every week, or even every month. I just write when I have something to say. Here's hoping you and SA may decide to do the same someday...

    Whether or not you ever write another post, know that many of us out here love you and SA to death and appreciate the friendships we've built with you. Keep in touch!


  21. Awww, I hate to lose you. Spank on!

  22. B'man, I have enjoyed every single one of your blogposts I have reread your blog several times over to catch nuances that I hadn't seen the first time. Thank you very much for such an enjoyable read. I would not be the tweeder that I am today if it was not for you and sugar anne. The blogosphere will miss you both and so will I.

  23. I'm sad to see you leaving. You both will be missed so much.

    My love and best wishes go with you,

  24. Shocked. Sad. Speechless. Sobbing.

  25. Thanks for the excellent blogposts B'man. I understand about needing to stop at some point. I wish you and SugarAnne all the best. Like someone in that crowd of people up there said, .... this is somewhat of a beginning. There is a freedom in living your life and not wondering what you should and shouldn't say on the blog. Just live it.
    Hugs to you both,

  26. I'm sorry to see you leave the blogging village we call home. If you change your mind, we'll be here to read what you have to say.


  27. Wow! I'm so sad about this, I don't know what to say. I will miss you both, your posts are my faveorite. I loved reading about TTWD from your point of view. Thank you for being so open and honest. I will miss you

  28. I am very very sad to see you go Babyman. Your blog never failed to make me laugh or smile. Mr G and I learned so much from you and Sugar. Thankyou so much for all your support. I would love to keep in touch Babyman. Big hugs, Galway. :(

  29. Wow. I understand, but it still sucks. I really look up to you both and have loved being able to get little glimpses into your lives. Thank you for being willing to share so much with all of us. At least you'll still be living on the block, even if you're no longer producing your show for us. (yeah... just read Mick & Molly's blog about sitcoms! Hate it when a sitcom I love goes off the air :( )

  30. hey we will keep the "tweed" light going in honor of you!! but i do know what you mean about posting...ik i have only been here a few short months but as i feel and everyone has said we really have grown quickly in ttwd.. God is tugging me in a different direction and well soon keeping up with this blog is gonna be rough..i have to say though I'm surely going to miss reading yours and sugarannes post i was always excited when u had one up

    take care and don't be strangers


  31. Can I just say thanks? Because when my corner of the world was dark, your words kept me going. I know it's been long since I've commented... but when I saw this blog post, I knew I had to say thanks... Thanks for welcoming me into this blogsphere and I've enjoyed a lot of your posts... So I'll miss them!
    Take care

  32. To All:

    I...uh...we...uh...we're just speechless. All I can say!

    What with all the eulogies, the weeping, wailing and gnashing of teeth, I think the only thing that's missing is a dirge as background music. Surely a bagpiped Amazing Grace would be in order here.

    If that sounded really stupid (and not funny like it was meant to be) it's because I say really stupid stuff when I'm touched to my heart. When I'm speechless I should probably just stay speechless.

    We want y'all to know we are utterly floored by this amazing expression of fondness for us.

    What can we say but "Thanks!"

  33. B'Man,

    Thanks for all your help along our path. We love your blog and all the humorous insight you have provided along the way. See ya here, there, or on the other side.


  34. Wow, I feel like I just found your blogs and now you are leaving. I'm glad to know that you are not totally leaving. I enjoy your comments. I've been blogging for 7 (has it really been 7?) years and I know how you feel. It's hard to come up with new stuff and sometimes it seems like a burden.

    Anyway, everyone has to do what is right for THEM and that is what you guys will do.

    Thanks for sharing...

  35. Don't want thanks. Want you to stay.... :((

  36. We are SO saddened, but I can understand the desire to not regurgitate (sp?) things you believe already said. Thankful still, that you're not COMPLETELY disappearing...
    All the best,
    -- Sean & Mary-Kate

  37. You were the best.....You will both be missed. But as you know I completely understand. Glad to have met you my friend. You won't rid yourself of me that easily though!!!!

  38. I'm sad to see ya'll go.You will be missed


  39. Wow, looked what I've missed! I am SO very sorry to hear you and SugarAnne are stepping away. You both have added so much to this community. It has been an interesting, amusing and important journey that you have been kind enough to allow us to witness. Thank you. I Know you will be thought of and that you will be missed!

  40. I will miss reading your blogs. I wish the best to you and Sugar Anne.

  41. I express my sadness, that two good people like B'Man, and Sugar, are saying goodbye to us 'spanko's. I wish you both good luck in your future years, and may you always have a 'spanking good time".

  42. Good Luck B'Man, and Sugar Anne. We the spanking community will miss you. May you both have a 'spanking good time' in your future years.

  43. Sorry, to see you'll not be posting. We did so enjoy reading posts from both of you. Glad to hear that you'll still be around.

  44. Please, come back? Miss you guys so much. How about a post every couple months ? Just to give updates? Please? xxxxxxxxxxxxx

  45. I finally got through every one of your and Sugar's blogs to be dissapointed that the journey (for me at least) was over. I hope everything is still going well :)

  46. this is sad :( im only new to all of this and was looking forward to learning so much from you Take care, wish you well xxx


  48. I thought you might miss blogging and stop in every few months to say hello, but I guess you have moved on.

    Anyway, hope your lives are filled with much happiness.


  49. I miss you and can't bring myself to remove your blog from my blogroll.


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